“Against Romance: An Un-Valentine.”

As the Valentine's day is upon us a question comes to mind: "Are we supposed to subject our relationships to some recipe for permanent swoon and are made to believe we are failing if we just live in reality."

In the latest TIES assay, Judith Hertog writes about her partner: "I know him well enough now that I can say with some certainty that this is not a fleeting infatuation. I love him, not only because I know him better than any other person in the world, but also because I’ve learned from him to distrust romanticism, and above all, because it would never occur to him to ever again give me a Valentine."